Bend over, I'm going to take your temperature

Anal sex! Anal sex! Anal sex!
That simple phrase that has so many implications. In school growing up I never even thought about it. I pretty much saw it as a thing guys do, not girls. When I finally realized that girls do it I felt that they were just trying to get as close to real sex as they could. I personally thought that was pretty dumb, and if they really wanted sex so bad they should just do it. The only thing you prevent with anal sex is pregnancy. All the other treats of sex, STDs and such, still 'cum' with the package.
Really, I never considered anal as something on my list of things to do. The idea of vaginal sex just sounded too good to pass up. It wasn't until I first started seeing my partner that the idea even came up. It had been his fantasy for quite a long time.
In the beginning when he brought it up I said no way. I was new to sex, and the idea of something up the butt just didn't do it for me. He persisted though, so I finally caved and gave it a try. Well, that is sort of a lie. There was a 'slip' during sex one evening first.
You see my partner is much taller than me so I was standing on a large phone book so we could have sex standing up. I stood up on the phone book and put my hands on the counter in front of me for balance, while he grabbed onto my ass, hands on each side. In his haste to get back in he certainly got in, but not in the hole I wanted pounded. It was the most immense pain since he wasn't really lubed up because the vagina usually provides the lube. I remember collapsing on the bed and hearing him apologize over and over again.
Anyways, when I finally decided to try anal sex properly we loaded up on the lube and I got on all fours on the bed. Fire once again! It hurt so bad! Once it pulled out and went back in it only got worse. We decided a bit of research should be done. A few slim toys were purchased and were to be practiced with.
Since this point we have had a couple of okay anal sex sessions, but it is still not a pleasurable thing for me. I would like it to be, I just feel like I am missing the secret.

I do! I do!

Marriage is an interesting topic. There are simply so many views on it. Society as a whole promotes it. It does have its benefits such as two incomes, two parents if there are children, tax breaks, prevents transmission of STDs if both partners are faithful, lifelong sex (if you marry the right person), etc.
The things that aren't so good about marriage include becoming part of a family that may not want you, flexibility to move decreases if both people work, obligation to family to have kids, no real alone time from your partner, and all in all you may just wish you did not buy the cow.
I do want to get married at some point. I don't want to get married for any of the reasons above, though. I just want the security of knowing that my partner-in-crime will always be there. I am a social person, and I keep my friends for life, to some level. One is the loneliest number.

What makes you ready to get married? I am not really sure. I think you just take the plunge when it feels right. I personally only have a small amount of student loans, I have a Bachelor's degree, an ok paying job, and no other huge obligations. That pretty much means that I can do as I please. When I feel I am ready to say "I do" I will.

Until then there are far more exciting adventures. Besides I am only 22!

Favorite toys for girls

Sex toys seems to be marketed for guys. Yes, there are indeed pictures of women on the outside of some sex stores, but they are not trying to attract girls inside. If you ever make it in there you will probably find that the first store you try is shabby and the guy at the counter seems a little too interested in you.
The toys all look nice in their packages, until you see the clerk pop one out of the plastic and let the guy next to you touch it. The guy feels it and doesn't want to purchase it so it goes back in the plastic. You easily could have bought once of these toys and not doused it in hardcore disinfectant. You will never make that mistake now.
When you enter these stores you generally had an idea of what fantasy you want to fulfill, but when the clerk asks you tell him you are just looking. Its hard enough to be here, much less start revealing your deep dark secrets to a stranger.
The best toys are the vibrators. If they are smooth they can be used in many ways. A slim toy is always best to start. Never buy a toy like its the only one you will ever get. Chances are you will go through quite a few before you find a keeper.
Incorporating toys with sex with your partner isn't a bad idea either. Try it once in a while for fun. Just make it a no pressure situation. If you want your partner to try a few toys give them a Visa gift card or cash and tell them to order something online discretely. Then they will be more likely to try it. If they want to use it only by themselves let them. You will have a better relationship if you encourage sexual pleasure, not limit it. There is no reason to feel threatened by a sex toy. You can honestly tell yourself you are the one that makes him/her horny.

Masturbation lost it's fun? Don't let go yet!

Growing up I didn't know what masturbation was until I had graduated from high school. I had never even heard the word until half way through high school at a church event. They described it as a bad thing. A sin. I didn't feel those around me were any more knowledgeable about the subject than myself so I just forgot about it.
When I finally looked it up I was a little surprised to say the least. I sort of thought masturbation was a guy thing for quite a while. When I looked it up though I found that I had been doing it since I was three! As a little kid I discovered pillows, and that if I rubbed just the right way it felt good. I used this good feeling to put off going to the bathroom because I would lose the sense of urgency for a few extra minutes, which allowed me to play with me toys longer before having to eventually head to the bathroom.
As time went on my pillow and I developed a very good relationship. We had regular encounters daily, if not even more often. Until I discovered what sex was at the age of 10, I masturbated with nothing on my mind whatsoever. I could just rub into the pillow and feel good (mind you I always had clothes on, which is what made this so convenient). When I discovered what sex was it was like my brain changed. I suddenly could only masturbate with nothing on my mind if I really really tried. Before long I had to think about sex or it just wouldn't work.
I kept up my regular routine for a longtime, till my dog died when I was about 15 years old or so and I spent more time at church. I felt guilty for masturbating because I was thinking of sexual things while I rubbed into the pillow. I still didn't know the act itself was a 'horrible sin', but I was smart enough to know that the thoughts weren't Christian.
Vowing to not do it again I gave it up for an entire year.It wasn't an easy year, for the longer I went without it the more my body wanted it. The cravings for it just didn't leave me.
When over a year had passed I had forgotten why I had given it up. Whatever deep reason I had originally had didn't seem as important. I gave into temptation and went at it. I hadn't used those muscles in my legs for such a long time that I walked bow-legged for a day or two. I hoped no one noticed. I just rubbed into the pillow over and over again for almost an entire day till I hurt. It was definitely the best masturbation I have ever had.
I don't feel that masturbation is a bad thing at all. If it keeps you from getting into trouble do it. It feels good and is 100% safe and disease free. My way can be done anytime anywhere, since you are fully clothed. Just lay on a pillow on the floor as you watch tv. If someone leaves the room for a minute use your time wisely. One or two minutes is all you really need.

Background Check

Who am I you may ask? Well I am just your average girl taking on the world, one step at a time. I have a college degree, a good paying job and a healthy interest in what I shouldn't. I am independent and I take care of myself.
I may get myself into trouble, but when I achieve success I know that the success is mine alone.

Who am I? Just an unAverage Girl.